Find out where you could be going wrong in the dating scene, as the
matchmakers from Birmingham Singles reviews the top reasons men struggle
getting a girlfriend!
Have you ever wondered why you're always going out on a lot of dates,
but none of them turn into a relationship?
You might have a decent job and even look better than your male friends
with girlfriends, but for some reason or another, you spend all your Friday
nights watching Law & Order: SVU at home by yourself. If this has been going on for a while, Birmingham
Singles has the top reasons you might not be landing a girlfriend.
Read on to find out what they are and change them!
You Always Go For The Casual Look
Going out with a casual look is never the right approach to landing a
girlfriend. If you believe your sense of
style is the chill look or sloppy chic, that is still no excuse to go out on a
date looking like a cat dragged you out.
Women are generally prone to criticizing appearances, explains Birmingham
Singles, and they make an assumption from what they see. So if dirty ripped up jeans and T-shirts are
your everyday look, this could be a major reason why you're not getting a
girlfriend, explains Birmingham Singles.
To her, you might come off looking like a lazy slob, or even an
unemployed slacker. So if you want to
have more success with women, try going for that well-groomed look. In other words, dress like a gentleman.
You Always Drown Your Dates With Gifts
Unless you are involved in a serious relationship with a woman, it's
best to stay clear of extravagant gifts, explains Birmingham Singles,
especially during the first few dates.
If you go up to your date with a gift wrapped bracelet, or an exotic
pearl necklace, when you barely know her, more likely than not, she will be
embarrassed by your gestures. Or even
worse, she will be suspicious of your true intentions and feel like you're
trying to buy her attention, explains Birmingham Singles.
And even if you're able to win her over with gifts, is that a real
reason to want her? Subtle gifts should
be given during first dates, but extravagant ones should be saved for when
you're involved in a serious relationship with her, states Birmingham
Singles.
You Never Pay For The Date
It is common for a man to pay on a first date, even if his woman date
offers to pay for half. If you are on a
date adding numbers up in order to figure out who ordered what, so you can
split the bill accordingly, you're going to come off as a cheapskate, explains Birmingham
Singles. You might as well kiss your
date goodbye, because you're never going to see her again.
Paying for a date is more than just a social standard, it's being
generous and kind to your date. It shows
her that you're a provider, someone she can rely on when she is in a serious
relationship, explains Birmingham Singles.
You Always Talk About Yourself
A man who is constantly talking about himself, his achievements and his
ambitions, is boring to a woman. If you
really want her to turn into a serious girlfriend, you need to put her before
you, states Birmingham Singles.
Yes, you heard that right. So
instead of you spending the whole date talking about yourself, ask her about
her past times, her friends, the best vacation destination she's been to. At the same time, refrain from the temptation
to check yourself in the mirror as you walk past them, or not to secretly sneak
a peak on a shiny surface like your soup spoon.
Regardless how great you think you look, this will be a major turn off
for her.
You Come Off As Desperate
This is the complete opposite from the one above, but it's always a
major turn off for women. You probably
already know that women are looking for a sensitive, responsible, financially
independent man with a good sense of humor, however, trying too hard to come
off as all of those things, is going to backfire on you and she won't be
interested in you, explains Birmingham Singles. Women know when a man is trying too hard, and
instead of impressing her, you're going to turn her off completely. What you should do is focus on expressing
your qualities through your actions, explains Birmingham Singles. Remember that women are wired to feel
emotions; therefore, you should act and make her feel great so she is
interested in getting to know you more.
You Complain A Lot
Okay, so life has handed you some rough cards, but then again, who is
free of problems in life? That's right,
you need to leave your problems at home, not bring them up on your dinner date
with her, reminds Birmingham Singles.
Yes, you are looking for a woman who will share your troubles with you,
but if you're constantly complaining about your boss, your greedy ex-wife, or
your mortgage, chances are she won't make it to the second date with you. Above all, you want her to be your girlfriend,
not a therapist to vent to.
You're Constantly Checking Out Other Women
This is one of the most common reasons why many men cannot get a
girlfriend, states Birmingham Singles.
Do you find yourself checking out other women while you're on
dates? If you are on a date with a
particular woman, it indicates you have chosen her to give your attention to
during that time. So do not be
distracted by that exotic brunette sitting behind her, and keep your ogling
eyes under control. Maybe the waitress
is beautiful, but this is not the time to check her out, reminds Birmingham
Singles.
You're Overly Nice
Sometimes, men who are too supportive in a relationship find it hard to
keep a girlfriend. And if you're one of
them, it might be because you're being too nice and your dates take you for granted. In order to get a woman to like you, you
don't have to become a doormat and accommodate to all her wishes, explains Birmingham
Singles. If she wants to go out to
eat at a certain hour and you cannot make it because of a work meeting, don't
accommodate to her. Let her know you
will not be available. At the end of the
day, what a woman is really looking for is a man she can respect and admire,
explains Birmingham Singles. And
if you're constantly putting her needs before yours, you will come off as
unimportant and desperate to her.
You Move In Too Quickly
Women like to get to know a man really well before getting intimate
with them. This is another common reason
many women reject men, explains Birmingham Singles. And that is because the man tries to make a
move on them too quickly. Making
innuendos, groping her, or even moving in for a kiss without being invited, are
never good things in the dating world--And they could be the reason why you
can't keep a girlfriend.
If you're guilty of doing any of these things, Birmingham Singles
suggests you do whatever is needed to change them and become a better dater.
